Living with or being close to a narcissist can be incredibly challenging. Narcissist behaviours can leave you feeling confused, hurt, and isolated. It’s important to understand what you’re dealing with and to have strategies in place to cope with narcissist relationships.
Here are some practical tips for partners and families of narcissists.
Understanding Narcissist Behaviours
Narcissists often exhibit behaviours like excessive self-importance, a need for constant admiration, and a lack of empathy for others. They might manipulate situations and people to get what they want, and they can be very charming when it suits them. Recognizing these behaviours is the first step in protecting yourself from their impact.
Set Boundaries
One of the most effective ways to cope with a narcissist is to set clear and firm boundaries. This means being assertive about what you will and will not tolerate. Boundaries can protect you from narcissistic abuse and manipulation. Make sure to communicate these boundaries clearly and stick to them.
Practice Self-Care
Dealing with a narcissist can be exhausting. It’s crucial to prioritize your own well-being. Make time for activities that make you happy and help you relax. Whether it’s going for a walk, reading a book, or spending time with friends, self-care is essential for maintaining your mental and emotional health.
Don’t Take It Personally
Narcissists often use manipulation and criticism to control those around them. Remember that their behaviour is a reflection of their own issues and shortcomings, not yours. Try not to take their actions and words personally. This can be easier said than done, but understanding that their behaviour is about them, not you, can help you maintain your self-esteem.
Seek Support
You don’t have to deal with a narcissist on your own. Seek support from friends, family, or a therapist. Talking to someone who understands what you’re going through can be incredibly helpful. Support groups, both online and in-person, can also offer valuable advice and a sense of community.
Limit Contact
If possible, limit your contact with the narcissist. This might mean reducing the time you spend with them or communicating only when necessary. In some cases, going “no contact” might be the best option for your well-being. This can be especially important if the narcissistic abuse is severe.
Stay Calm and Detached
Narcissists often thrive on drama and emotional reactions. Staying calm and detached can prevent you from getting sucked into their manipulation. Practice techniques like deep breathing, mindfulness, and positive self-talk to help you stay grounded. Sometimes it’s better to not give them the reaction they’re trying to provoke and just remove yourself from the situation.
Remember Your Worth
Narcissists can be very good at making you feel worthless or inadequate. It’s important to remember your worth and to practice self-compassion. Surround yourself with people who appreciate and support you. Focus on your strengths and achievements, and don’t let the narcissist’s behaviour define what you think and know about yourself.
Conclusion
With the right strategies, you can protect yourself and maintain your well-being. Remember to set boundaries, practice self-care, seek support, and educate yourself about narcissistic behaviours. By taking these steps, you can navigate the complexities of being close to a narcissist and build a healthier, happier life for yourself and your family.
At The Relationship Therapy Centre, we understand the challenges of dealing with narcissist relationships. If you need support, don’t hesitate to reach out to our team of experienced therapists. We’re here to help you navigate your relationships and find the peace and balance you deserve.
